By Lucas Webb
Got that nagging feeling like something’s just not quite right with your relationship? On paper it should work fine but after spending some time with this person, you begin to have your doubts. So how do we ever really know who’s right and who’s wrong for us?
Here are 5 signs you’re with the wrong one:
1. How do you feel when you’re with them? Your happiness is the most important gauge when trying to figure out who’s right or who’s wrong for you. Ask yourself do I feel happy when we’re together, or do I feel perpetually sad or anxious? Do I look forward to seeing this person or do I long for the times when he/she’s not around? Do I have a calmness about me or do I always get that walking-on-egg-shells feeling? And lastly, is our relationship forced and rocky or is it going smooth and easy? If your answers to the above questions are the opposite of good, then I hate to break it to you–you’re with the wrong person!
Sure, I know there’s always going to be hard times within any relationship. Times when your partner will say or do the wrong thing, but a complete and ongoing sadness or anxiousness day after day is a serious red flag. (…and red flags should always equal moving on.) Think of it like this, the faster you move on from this bad relationship, the quicker you’ll meet the one who WILL allow you to be in a good relationship. Life’s too short to ever waste time on the wrong ones—remember: If two wrongs don’t make a right then dating two, three, or four Wrongs won’t ever make a Mr. or Mrs. Right either.
2. Do they help you become who you are or hinder you? In other words, are you YOURSELF or better when you’re around them? If you’re not, then bail—You’re with the wrong person. No one will ever change for you and don’t let anyone ever change who you are either! Instead free yourself to go out and find the one who you won’t have to change for! The right person will love you just the way you are and in return you’ll love them just the way they are—That’s how it’s suppose to work! If it’s not—end it, period. Always be your own authentic self and be happy with who you are. After all, if you’re not happy with yourself, how can anyone else be happy with you?
3. Be honest, is sex the only thing that still holds the two of you together? If the bad of your relationship far out ways the good, yet you stay in because you like having sex with this person and can’t imagine finding anyone better, then you must release yourself from this fear and let them go. If sex is all that holds the two of you together—then you’re with the wrong person. We’ve all heard of “Beer Goggles”; but there’s also such a thing as “Sex Goggles!” Sex clouds many bad relationships making them seem like they have potential when they never really should have started in the first place. If you’re having trouble leaving a person who’s all wrong for you just because of the sex, remember the right person for you will not only fulfill you sexually, but mentally and spiritually as well. So don’t be afraid to let a great physical relationship go. You will certainly regain this again–only this time you’ll have it with someone you actually love; even when fully dressed.
4. Simply put, anything that’s a deal breaker stays a deal breaker. The first commandment of any relationship should be: Know your deal breakers! No matter how good looking this person is, if they do or say something that’s on your Deal Breaker List (Make one if you don’t already have one), end it right then. Why waste time? Their violation with this deal breaker of yours will only get worse as time goes by so why not just go out and find someone without this problem? Drugs, alcohol, rudeness, inconsideration of you’re feelings, any type of abuse no matter how rare or often—if any of your deal breakers are ever found in your relationship, guess what?–You’re with the wrong person!
5. When there’s always the thought of someone else. Deep down you know—Maybe you’ve always known that this person was all wrong for you. You’ve heard and ignored that still small voice within you telling you there’s someone better out there for you. Probably you’ve even talked back to it once or twice, trying to convince yourself that this is really the right person for you after all. However the thought of someone else is still there, isn’t it? Time to start listening to that voice because let’s be really real here for a moment—If you were with the right one, would you really be searching out or reading “signs you’re with the wrong one” on the internet?–Thought so! So let me confirm for you what you’ve already known—You’re with the wrong one! Now go out and find the right one!
